What is happening to people today – specifically men talking to women. I was talking to a friend today who informed me she was at work answering a phone call. She was letting the caller know the colors they had in stock of a certain shoe he inquired about. Suddenly the conversation took a turn as the caller began to compliment her starting with how she “sounded beautiful”. He then asked her if she was married – she lied and said she was seeing someone. I was amazed at the brazen attitude of the man but he hadn’t really stepped over any line… yet.
The next thing she said shocked me. As the man continued to flirt he suddenly went to the next level when he said “I’ll make your pussy so wet it will be like a river down there.” My friend said she was so taken aback by his statement she almost asked him to repeat what he said – and then she shook the daze from her head and just hung up the phone. “Why do guys have to be like that?” she asked. “And who wants it that wet down there?” I said trying to make the situation a little lighter.
The truth was, though, to hear stories like this – and this kind isn’t rare – is so alarming. When did men start thinking that this is how you talk to women? When did men start thinking that this was the way to get women interested? How are talking lewd and dick pics the go to move when a woman seems somewhat interested – or even worse – when the women don’t seem interested? My friend and I continued discussing the topic.
“Has there ever been a scenario where you’ve changed your mind AFTER getting a dick pic? Like, you tell a guy you’re not interested and then he sends the pic of his wiener and you are suddenly like ‘On the other hand… what are you doing on Tuesday?'”.
“Yeah…no.” she laughed. “It’s not even a nice looking piece of the anatomy – I would rather see so many other parts rather than a dick.”
“So when did it start? When did the dick pic become such a common practice? What happened to guys just enjoying a conversation and working towards a relationship? Is that not where things are at anymore?” Granted, I’ve been married for 10 years and I have children so maybe I am out of the loop – but I worry for my daughter when she grows up in a world where men think the way to a woman’s heart is a digital record of their nether regions.
Can we all agree that maybe we should calm things down? Start with pictures of your smiles, then maybe a pic of you in a nice button up shirt, moving onto a pic of you in a form fitting t-shirt. Have conversations about your favorite movies and breakfast cereal and hold off on the dirty talk. Maybe wait for a dick pic until after the girl has requested it and you’ve asked back “Are you sure?” and “Really? Is that really what you really want?” about a dozen times.